Those aren’t stretch marks! Those are battle scars!


Stretch marks are every mother’s obvious issue. I have them too! And somehow, they have bothered everyone but me. So, you get an idea about how thick skinned I can be, right? Jokes apart, this post is not about how to get rid of them. Because, I did not! Hubby still frowns as he looks at the unused stretchnils he got me while I was preggers. He still softly admonishes me for not having used them at the right time. Well, my hands were full then. And, like for every mother, child comes first at all times. I was no exception. But there is something more I have wanted to share on this blog since long. Apparently, it has taken me four years and three months to pen down about why I went for a C-Section and not for a normal. And, while I was contemplating on whether or not to write about this in my blog, WOM (World of Moms) approached me to write something on similar lines.

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So, sharing the excerpt here:

“Countless articles and blogs have flooded the Internet, in support of the ensuing struggles a woman who has undergone c-sec, faces. I know them well for I too underwent a C-sec. But believe me, that was not what I wanted.

A change in place, doctors and a lot of unforeseen medical complications led me to take the call for a C-sec. The decision wasn’t easy but, given the fact that hubby was in an unreachable zone (Yes, Yours truly is a faujan). Besides, the loop around my son’s neck was an alarm as his movements inside were crazy and, the continual leaking of my amniotic fluid were just the tip of the iceberg of the many terrible worries that clouded my head space. Also, a woman who was admitted a day prior, in the next room lost her baby for similar reasons. That was indeed a delicate time for me and, no matter how badly I wanted to go for a normal delivery, C-sec happened.

I had decided to place my trust in the third doctor who had examined me since, and her judgment of my condition convinced me to take the call. After all for every mother, the child’s well being comes first. I was no exception. And, the manner in which my fluid was leaking left little chance for a normal delivery and, I opted for the surgery. Yes, I was prepared to go under the knife for my child’s sake on 22nd June’ 2011. But, what I wasn’t prepared for, were the repercussions the surgery had on me later………….”

To read the complete article, click here.

 

 

The small world of space and freedom.


“Children are NOT robots!”. I could sense a disappointment in my father’s voice as he explained to me the flaws in my parenting approach to make my son listen to me. Well, my son is one of his kind. As much as he is compulsively disobedient to me, he is impulsively obedient to my hubby. Be it, eating or sleeping or taking bath or any task for that matter, my son leaves no leaf un-turned in making the daily rigmarole superlatively exhausting and demanding. Well, my mom remarks, “Boys will be boys! They trouble moms because they love moms like none other! So enjoy!” It is easy for her to remark and move on, as she raised a daughter (no easy I was but difficult in a different way). Also, she is a granny and she made it very clear from the beginning that her sole purpose in life now on is to pamper her grandson silly! And so, here I am learning, unlearning and relearning the art of parenting, my own way.

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There are endless moments of sternness, yelling, cajoling, coaxing and all the unimaginably funny methods to bring the toddler on the same page as the parent. But there are definitely a few lessons I have learned until now.

“If your child is taking a fall, don’t stop him. The most important lesson you can impart to your child is, learning to take a fall. A child knows how to rise again only if he falls and then lands on his feet and that too, by himself. Independence and self confidence at an early age helps a child interpret success the way he or she should……”

To read the complete post, click here.

What I learnt in the first year of my motherhood.


When World of Moms contacted me and asked me to guest blog for them, I was overwhelmed. I went through their website and it is simply amazing to see so many mommy bloggers pouring out their experiences, recipes, thoughts about parenting and what not! One stop place for all the first time mothers, who need to anything and everything about motherhood. As for me, I have shared here my experience of what all I learnt from the first year of motherhood.

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“As a mother, I have had my moments of perplexities. A week post delivery, I went through a long phase of utter confusion and a sense of inability to deal with the change that I assumed, I was so prepared for…………………………………………………..

…………………………I had a c-section following which, I was on bed rest for a couple of weeks before I could get up from the bed and move around. And, in those days, nursing the baby was incredibly difficult for two reasons; one, I had sore nipples and two, my son was unable to latch. It was nothing like what those beautiful advertisements of ‘Johnsons & Johnsons’ portray. The lack of physical agility and the incredible abdominal pain after surgery did not make it any easier for me to bond with my child. However, my mother who is also my best friend guided me resiliently through that tough phase……………………………………………………………”

To read the complete post, click here 🙂

Hope you enjoy what you read!