Books are the best friends a man could have in his lifetime.
Couldn’t agree more. They were my lifeline when I wanted to escape the humdrum existence created by vectors, statistics, MendelsLaws, engineering designs etc….
Well, no complaints. There are good books and there are books that teach you life lessons. And, who is to know which is which?😁
So, if you thought I was going to share a list of books for you to read, you would be disappointed to know that I haven’t read much in a decade. There are books I bought on a whim and never read, read a few others but never crossed a few chapters and then there were a few odd ones that I read as if I were to appear for my boards yet again. Each of us have quirks. And, I have mine. I often give that illusion of being a voracious reader but, the truth is I am not. But, if you consider people as books, I might say – I have read my fair share.
Now, how do you read people? It is a skill that I was introduced to by the virtue of being a part of a close knit organization that works on human dynamics. So, the skill of reading people is a trickster. It is like clicking on the zoom link and waiting to join and realize a few minutes later, you clicked on the wrong link while the meeting you were supposed to be a part of, has ended by then. Disappointments galore in learning this skill. On bright days, you get to read good books that teach you how to navigate through complicated situations without bruising yourself. I call such books – the Keepers. And then, on some days, you end up reading exactly the opposite that get into your head and throw your limbic system off balance! Apparently, you come out bruised and battered but many shades wiser. Such books are The Jokers! They thrive on chaos and drag the batman in you out along to see the Gotham of your dreams burn!
And then, there are books you feel the need to be a part of, so you presume. You want to be in the best pages of those books wherein everyone looks forward to the chapter that has you or so to say, your accomplishments. It is quite a revelation to watch people lined up to become the chapters in a book they haven’t read till the end but have simply known them as ‘good books’. I don’t judge them because there are enough books for everyone in the world. But then, there are those who get into certain books out of fear, out of fear of being ostracized, out of fear of being labelled the odd man out. I judge that. Succumbing to fear burns many seeds of progress even before the dispersal begins. I call those books – Hamsters on the wheel. Play it safe. Why? They just keep running without fully believing their choice. The idea of being safe seems more acceptable than the painful idea to grow as a book with profound experiences.. However, the idea of Hamsters running on wheel works for Hamsters. Enough said.
And, there is the Pa-Mei’s Journal – the journal of fear Himself l that helps you confront him under his tutelage. If there is one thing I have learned about fear, it is this – it might appear to be your foe but it is indeed the best teacher you can have after Experience. Post recovery from a medical condition, I realized that fear is a flag from your soul that is trying to help you gauge yourself, to reflect within, to see how far can you let your mind go rogue. It will stretch your mind like a rubber band till the pain feels as real and then, makes you watch all the worst case scenarios, like the astrologer who makes a fortune out of deciding which fates to bind. But unlike the astrologer, the journal of Pa-Mei gives you the option to respond out of free will.
To respond with courage of conviction is never easy. But, it is worth every ounce of pain that the process of response gives while you stand up again bruised by situations that you have no control over. Importantly, it gifts you a skill that many assume to have but, only few actually have – the ability to read books before deciding to become part of them. I named the book – Pa-Mei’s Journal, based on one of my favourite characters in Kill Bill Series.
So, one gets to read the Keepers, the Jokers, the Hamsters and Pa-Mei’s Journal through life. There are newspapers too but I don’t wish to elaborate on daily news. It is just that humans are designed to be drawn naturally towards what finds its way more easily into the emotional reserves of our brains. And, then subsequently births the responses on which books to become and, which to be a part of.
That said, I am reminded of what a celebrated book once said about the idea of being in good books. The book’s Broca’s area was quite direct and, exuded courage of conviction in the words that the book stood by.
And, that be a book one must either strive to become or, be a part of.