Recently on my trip to home city, I saw a pet shop where there was this beautiful kitten, sadly a famished one staring blankly at the glass that had fish gleefully swimming from one end to the other. My husband said one word – Cruelty! and, heaved a sigh!
However, as sad it was to watch the kitten see its favourite food not only alive and kicking, but smirking and swimming pretty bravely on its face, I was also amused. For, after some time, the kitten turned its face away stoically.
I wonder how the kitten would have reacted had the fish landed between its paws. Would it jump up with exhilaration and, do a Frabjous Day? Or, will it just look away and, feel dead as the dead fish?
But then, if Life has taught me anything about itself, it is this in plain and in, no uncertain terms that,
“Nothing is yours truly if you try to possess it by force or, by command. What you wish for also has to embrace you with the same love and comfort.”
And, that brings me to the context of insecurity. Go by definition, it is the opposite of security. How funny, no?
Break the word Insecurity and it is, “In security!”
Well, I wouldn’t question my favourite language’s quirkiness but yes, the word in the real world is surely supposed to be questioned and, how!
Having been a person who prefers walls first and bridges later, it has been a tiring struggle to ward off humans with the tendency to jump over the walls. It is not easy to explain to the world that boundaries are important. When I see people using their insecurities as a macabre tool to armtwist into doing their bidding, it makes me very very sad.
Sad because I see clearly how that kind of insecurity fueled dominance is meted through authority and position of power to extract good words, apologies and obedience is, on the contrary unhealthy by mind.
Insecurities drive people crazy. A slight deviation in action and, they are convinced that the world is out to get them!
Just like a grizzly bear that ought to get intimidated by just anything..
Talking of which, people with insecurities are the worst form of oppressors who use every trick in the book to create an image wherein they appear to have suffered much, an excuse for their sad behavior!
THERE IS NO EXCUSE IN THE WORLD WHEREIN YOU HAVE TO BE CRUEL AND RUDE TO PEOPLE FOR NO DAMN REASON!
The oppressors do not even realize the damage they do on a daily basis to values, ethics and minds with their feudal mindsets. Say, you do a 100 good deeds and, on 101th, you back off because you are drained, you instantly are labelled an oppressor by the oppressor!
Usually THEY often suffer from a severe inferiority complex that stems from their inability to accept that there is still much to learn, much to let go and, much to accept with grace and, a pinch of salt.
Sadly, this breed is on rise currently.
As much as I hope my quota of meeting such breed is almost full, I do dread meeting them again. God help us!
Toxic people are real. And, insecurity is a disease, a mental one. God help them too.
Hope the wheels of time turn for good.
And, for all those insecure humans out there,
“You are just a small part of someone’s life outside your family, not the whole. People have better things to discuss and talk about. Not everything has to be about you!”