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#SajniShindeKaViralVideo
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It is an interesting film.
The characters of complexities couldn’t have been crafted better –
A domineering father helmed by his authoritative brother, a submissive mother who chooses silence over courage, a bright daughter who is all set to pave her path in the line of teaching, a misunderstood brother who finds comfort in his sister, a fiancé who chooses ‘progressive and regressive’ as per convenience, a student counsellor who wears feminism like a scar that is borne by everyone around her but her and, a school principal whose reputation of years is left hanging by a thread by an accidental upload that eventually changes the characters’ destinies for good and, for bad.
And then, there is Nimrat Kaur and Chinmay Mandlekar on the law enforcement side grappling with a flawed society that is quick to blame than, be blamed and, trying to solve a murder/suicide/mystery puzzle with little to no help from none.
The film touched too many levels of unfairness in the world, with the focus on feminism, misogyny and patriarchy – the food that social media feeds on relentlessly. But, what often eludes the eye is the matchstick that ignites the fire and vanishes.
I am not going to spill the beans here. However, one must know that the fault is necessarily NOT the predictable enemy’s. It is often the unseen ones who leave the consequences to others while abandoning their accountability with little or no remorse.
And so, the question props up -, who will question the carelessness and lack of guilt that leads to a cataclysmic outcome in the first place?
When watching the film, make a subtle note about the trigger that pivoted ‘the accidental upload’. And, given the ‘accidental upload’ that lead to a disastrous outcome, there is little remorse in the one person that made the mistake. And yet, the first question that was thrown – SHOULDN’T a woman be allowed to enjoy life?”
Of course, she can. And why allow? She should, by all means.
But then, there are rules and boundaries.
One does NOT mix work with pleasure if one cannot differentiate between the two.
One does NOT work while one is partying.
One does NOT email/text/upload when one is high.
Plain and simple – one does NOT make ‘accidental mistakes’ that have the potential to destroy someone else’s life, in this case an other woman’s.
The repercussions aren’t pleasant.
Coming back to the lines before – “why can’t a teacher enjoy her life the way she intends to? She does have the right to, after all.”
It is a sound statement until a generation of children gets blindly drawn only to the ‘fun’ in their teacher’s private life without realizing that the teacher who enjoys her life and, has fun has earned it by slogging through countless nights of burning midnight oil and, rising up from countless stumbles.
Also, as a teacher, one ought to know that children respond to stimuli in a different manner at different ages. For instance, a child of 5 and a teenager of 15 will perceive the image of a man and a woman differently, regardless of gender. This is exactly why sex education is introduced at a certain age and, NEVER before ‘the age’ sets in. The good touch and bad touch is all that a toddler is taught. The other and major parts of the syllabus come much later and, rightfully so.
There is a reason why the image of teachers is quite sacred in the mind of a child because their appearance, demeanour and their craft of teaching resonates with the warmth and familiarity one enjoys at home. This is also why schools are often labelled as extensions of our homes. The image of teachers is often associated with friendship, warmth and protection. We inherently imagine them to be that way. But then, teachers are humans too. They have a life beyond schools, colleges and universities too. And, nothing should ideally stop them from leading their lives in the manner they choose to.
So, if a teacher is having a good time in a private gathering at her own expense, it is not questionable. It is not anyone’s business. It is not up for any conversation at any dinner table. It is NOT UNTIL the word ‘private’ is disregarded and, then it becomes everyone’s snack to consume. Private is meant to be private and, for the right reasons. So, when a teacher’s life is made public, there is no embargo on perceptions that unravel at every juncture, beginning with the child’s headspace. It is almost unstoppable.
There needs to be a sense of what must be shared and, what must NOT be, on social media. Not everything is for everyone, out there.
That is the takeaway from #SajniShindeKaViralVideo
A wonderful wonderful film.
Do watch it, people.
Swimming in an ocean of thoughts..... 